Of all the online dating websites I am on, Eharmony is the only one for which I pay a membership fee. The price is easy to rationalize; it's only half the cost of my gym membership, a fraction of a tanning membership, and what I spend in a week for fancy iced coffees could cover a month of online dating easily.
The part that is not as easy to rationalize is the fact I'm paying for it. Why does this bug me? Maybe because it makes me fell a little pathetic? As if, I'm so desperate for a date that I have to pay just for the POTENTIAL of someone to go on a date with?
The thing about Eharmony and paying for online dating, as opposed to the free online dating websites, is that it DOES give you a different (and I'm going to go ahead and say BETTER) calibre of man, as well as men with different INTENTIONS (say, for a long term relationship); I don't think guys are going to pay $30+per month just to find girls to they want to bang, when they can do it for free.
The only issue with Eharmony is that it (the website) does all the matching for you. They claim their questionnaire, which is mandatory to fill out, covers 29 key areas "that help you develop a great long-term relationship," is what makes their site so effective. Now, I don't really know how this questionnaire works, but for those who are anything like me I want to find someone that is the OPPOSITE of me not LIKE me; I want someone who has similar values and morals, but is opposite of me tempermeant wise. I'm passionate, firey and quick tempered; I need someone who is composed, easy going and patient. Someone who can chill me out, and maybe someone who I can UN-chill a little too.
Unlike other sites you CANNOT surf for matches; they are generated and sent to you by Eharmony.
And they will send you matches when they have them for you. On my first days I received 29 Matches - out of this I responded to 6! That's 20% - Which is actually AMAZING - There are plenty of times I go on Plenty of Fish have over 20 emails and delete ALL of them.
I just started Eharmony recently, but so far so good. For now I'm going to get over paying for it... atleast until I see how the dates go...
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